How do you relate to another the intensity of your personal pain?
When prospective parents present themselves, we professionals look to “prepare” and “train” them for the rigors of this journey.
We attempt to educate them to the dangers of “caring too much.”
We open our judgment books and use our professional pulpits to batter and harass them until the family either gives up in disgust or proves to us that they are resilient enough to endure. We give them a crash course in psychology, behavior modification and psychic healing. Separation and Loss, unconditional love, Attention deficit, attachment disorders and bonding becomes so much jibber in a sea of meaningless words.
How do you prepare someone to face their worst fears and deepest secrets?
How many weeks would it take you to search your truest heart hoping to find only purity and agape love? What would you do if you discover not only none of the above, but the bitter taste of your own fear?
What we must do is strip the process down to its barest elements. We must provide a forum where folks feel safe to explore their deepest motivations. We have the opportunity to help families tap into our greatest energy source, the human spirit. It is that spirit that gives voice and calls us from our sleep, moving us recklessly into and through life’s challenges.
Feeling that spirit emerging from deep within a handful of brave explorers is my greatest reward. The reason I do the work and the legacy of a complex beginning.
Watching the eyes for the first time beginning to understand what it is we must do leaves me warm in God’s embrace. Welcome to summer where the sun always shines and truth meets its source one answer at a time.
Posted by Chet at Saturday, June 02, 2001